PERMISSION GRANTED: YOU ARE YOUR OWN CAPTAIN
BE YOUR OWN CAPTAIN.
THE ONLY PERMISSION YOU NEED IS YOUR OWN.
When we assume agency over our own lives, that's a powerful moment.
Every day we have the choice - do we take control, turn on autopilot, or let someone else steer?
It's easy to follow a script, using society norms as benchmarks to telegraph to the world that we're OK (or to beat ourselves up and tell ourselves WE'RE NOT OK).
If the safety of benchmarks feels good to you, then carry on. But if there’s something inside of you telling you there’s more for you - KEEP GOING.
Striking out on our own and no longer using societal norms as a benchmark is the ultimate boss move. It’s rewriting your script in your own voice instead of accepting the one that was handed to you.
The biggest dilemma we face is choosing to belong to society or choosing to honor ourselves. It seems like a binary choice.
We see this - I can be accepted by the group or I can be isolated as myself.
For most of us, we fear rejection. We have powerful stories and pain from times when we were misunderstood or we were rejected for being different or weird. So we’ve softened our edges, and make a contract with ourselves - it goes something like this:
If I act according to the norms, I am rewarded with a feeling of belonging and safety from the group and I receive security and validation for my choices.
We tell ourselves that our dream life is just that, a dream. If we were to be who we really are - we would be ostracised.
What if it wasn’t a binary choice?
When we honor our path we inevitably find others who are also on their own hero’s journey.
When we call ourselves into our full power, a new world opens before us.
We’re not taught to be brave because our world runs on fear. If you are fearful, you can be controlled. But if you’re willing to work through that fear and If you are willing to be brave, you’ll see that you can’t be controlled.
It’s as easy as switching fuel sources. We’re brought up on fuel coming from external sources. We’re told we have to have the right grades or the right look or the right job to be accepted. So we try to achieve our way to acceptance. We try to blend in so that when we look left and right, we feel like we fit in.
But, if you are willing to be brave and switch to self-generated validation, you’ll see that others have been brave before you and others still are being brave alongside you. If you’re willing to make the shift out of the mainstream and into the unknown you’ll find others who are doing the same.
So stop and ask yourself right now -
Are you fueled by external validation or internal validation?
Like anything that’s new and unknown, it’s hard at first because it’s uncertain, uncomfortable, and most of all unfamiliar. But as you acclimate to your own fuel of validation, external validation means less. It’s nice but unnecessary. Charting your own path becomes innate over time and soon you’ll wonder, how did you ever live any other way?
If we live on comfort and validation - we cannot charter our own ship, we can only be passengers.
Remember, we’re all scientists, and understanding our energy is the work we’re here to do.
We’re designed to transcend.
We’re designed to create.
We’re designed to love ourselves.
There is an infinite number of ways that we can express this - we just need to believe it’s possible FOR US.
We’ve all been given a unique purpose and we all have a distinct path.
By developing trust within ourselves, we can stop putting our power in someone else’s hands.
Our intuition is always with us.
We must only be willing to listen. You can do this. True listening, deep listening begins in the body.
Take five minutes and breathe.
Feel into your body to tune out the mind. Spend time feeling your limbs. Moving your energy from the mind into the body. Feel the heartbeat in your chest. Feel your power at your navel center. Take notice of your expansion. Be in your body. That’s all you need to do.
Is there a story you need to let go of in order to listen to your own wisdom? We write ourselves into linear narratives all the time to make sense of the world we live in. Write a new one or let them all dissipate into the ether. The only moment is now. The captain’s chair is waiting. Are you ready to drive?