HELP! I AM STUCK! (WHAT TO DO TO GET BACK IN FLOW)
WHAT TO DO WHEN YOU’RE TOTALLY STUCK.
BEING STUCK IS A UNIVERSAL EXPERIENCE.
Each of us are on our own journeys, floating around in our little space bubbles (your aura, duh) looking outward to figure out what’s going on in our inner world. The problem is exactly that - we’re all on our own track and our life path is COMPLETELY unique. We can’t cheat off of someone else’s paper because we each have our own tests. IS THIS METAPHOR CLEAR? Our lives, while intertwined, actually have almost nothing to do with each other because of our individual energetics. WE LIVE IN A GIANT ILLUSION because baby, we’re all just energy. Everything is energy.
WE SEE THIS WORLD, BUT UNDERNEATH IT ALL, WE’RE ALL JUST LIL ENERGY BUBBLES INTERACTING WITH EACH OTHER
STEP BY STEP DIRECTIONS TO UNSTICKING YOUR STUCKNESS:
STEP ONE: I [INSERT NAME HERE] AM STUCK
First, identifying that you are stuck is the first step.
Accept where you are. There’s no use in fighting or denying it because you’ll stay stuck longer (this is a lesson I have learned the hard way MANY TIMES).
I don’t know about you, but I think most people like to hide/ignore/deny their problems from themselves. This isn’t the best strategy if you’re trying to get unstuck. When I was in yoga teacher training, we had to keep a daily journal about everything we were facing. We can’t run away from our problems as much as we’d like to and we can’t drink them away or distract them away or party them away - they are still there, you just probably added a hangover.
RUNNING AWAY FROM YOUR PROBLEMS IS A TEMPORARY SOLUTION - I HAVE TRIED THIS MANY TIMES. THEY FIND YOU. SEE SNL SKIT ABOVE.
STEP TWO: TAKE INVENTORY
GET YOUR BEARINGS. What is happening around you? It can be helpful to think of yourself as a journalist or explorer in the wild, here - because the more you can be objective and zoom out, describing what’s happening and figuring out what wheels are spinning and where the energy is jammed, you’ll be able to create a game plan.
This is a good time to get to journaling, talk to a therapist, coach, trusted friend.
What’s working?
What’s not working?
NO PROBLEM SOLVING NEEDS TO BE DONE HERE - JUST OUTLINE THE FACTS: something like - “I cry each morning before I go to work because I’m so unfulfilled and also scared at my place of work,” and then keep digging (yes, this was me about like… 7 years ago? not great bob)
Being stuck can be, “ho-hum I don’t feel jazzed about life.” to extremely dark - if you are in the bottom of the hell pit and feeling like you don’t have any solutions reach out for professional help!!! The national suicide prevention hotline number is: 800-273-8255 there is NO SHAME IN NEEDING TO CALL IT.
STEP THREE: RELENTLESSLY CUT OUT THE EXCESS
WHAT CAN YOU CLEAR OUT? You’ve taken inventory. Now we take that inventory and we get to work! This is the time to slim down your schedule and your life to the bones. What don’t you need? This is a great time to Marie Kondo.
If you’ve identified that your job is killing your soul, but also that you are doing a lot of other stuff that’s not really helping - what can you quit? What can you walk away from?
We cut everything that isn’t the basics - protect your mental health, prioritize sleep, drink lots of water, and get outside/ get moving.
This isn’t about burning down everything around you (not that I’d rule that out if that feels right, ahem I see you Scorpios, but maybe see me for a 30 minute call first?) - but scaling back so you can create space.
STEP FOUR: START GENERATING SOME JOY
Scaling back to the basics means you can invite in the next chapter of your life. Being stuck typically means we’ve stayed in the old chapter too long / have been denying ourselves of acknowledging our growth and change. The good news? Life is always flowing around you. Things are always changing, even when it doesn’t seem like it.
What brings you joy? What simple things can you do to be in the moment?
Build moments into your schedule that make you happy! Is there an art exhibit you’ve been meaning to see? A friend who makes you laugh? A cheap improv show you can get tickets to?
Laughter and connection help us create creative solutions. Stepping away from your sticky situation helps build perspective and gets energy moving.
Need more guidance? Book an Accessing Inner Wisdom session with me - we’ll look at your personal energetics from a 360 view, identifying where you’re blocked and finding the next steps.
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