I'm married now and here are my thoughts
I got married, I cried a lot once it was over and now I am just filled with gratitude for how lucky I’ve been.
Major life events are curious things. It’s weird to be celebrated for finding your partner, but it’s also really, really fun.
Step one: find a photographer that takes pictures where you’re like, oh damn, yes, we look good! Pic via Caitlin Rose Photo
I was hesitant to have a wedding celebration. Is it cheesy to have a wedding? Am I full basic status for wanting one? Should we gather a small group and go to Mexico? Is it modern to skip it entirely?
When I searched my heart of hearts though, I knew I wanted the whole big party, fancy dress and to dance my heart out with my love and all my friends and fam, which leads me to the reason I am writing this post…
HAVING A WEDDING WAS FULLY WORTH IT.
It seems so over the top to declare one 6 hour party the best day of your life, but after it’s all said and done I am firmly in the camp of YES, HAVE THE WEDDING.
I cannot overstate how super magical and wonderful it was to celebrate with our friends and family. It was impossible to not feel loved. I mean how insanely cool that all these people had taken time off from their lives to come hang out with us and eat food in fancy clothes?
Here we are stomping on the glass (we each had our own). Pic via Caitlin Rose Photo
If the point of life is being present and loving your loved ones, then having a wedding is a seriously wonderful way to combine the best of life.
What no one could have prepared me for was how sad I was once it was all over and the last of my family went back to their respective coasts.
The general consensus on wedding planning is one of relief once it’s finally done, like whew! We did it and it’s over, YAY! So when I cried like 5 times over the next week because I was just so sad it was done, but also just absolutely overjoyed that it happened and was perfect and then I’d be so overwhelmed with love, I was like,
WHAT IS HAPPENING, WHO AM I? WHEN DID I BECOME A CRY PERSON?
All these feelings were a colossal surprise to me. Have I always been this sentimental? (Yes, I uncontrollably sobbed as a 5-year-old at a screening of Milo & Otis)
So now that time has passed and I’m able to accept that my wedding was a once in a lifetime event, I’m left with a different perspective on my life.
I had never truly realized how lucky I am. Our wedding was a moment where I was able to take a visual stock of my life. Surrounded by friends and family, I realized that no matter what my job or my location, I have already succeeded at life. I have cultivated strong relationships with people whom I love and admire and it has filled my heart with such joy to be able to see that and enjoy it.
How do I even begin to express the joy all of these ladies have brought me? Pic via Caitlin Rose Photo
I know it’s the most cliché, but it really does feel different to be married. It’s hard to pin down what it is exactly, but I will say it is especially fun to be newlyweds because people are extra nice to us.
Most noticeably, I feel more calm because I get to have a partner with me, which feels something like cheating at life. Sometimes we’re hanging out and I’m just struck with how insane it all is. How did we find each other? Why is it so fun to just do nothing or decide that Sunday night is bowling night? It’s honestly mind-boggling.