Transcending into 2021

A reminder that we live in a world created by thought. We co-create with the universe to make our world.

We’re always inventing the future and the only limits we have are our own. Being able to see your limiting beliefs and dissolve them will help you transcend as we move into 2021.

No matter what has happened this year, see the lessons in what you have experienced. If you are experiencing guilt or shame, do your best to let them pass through you.

As you dive into your design, approach this work as a self-led inquiry. This is your self-exploration journey. There is no failing, there is only information.

Remember, we’re all scientists, and understanding our energy is the work we’re here to do.

We’re designed to transcend.

We’re designed to create.

We’re designed to love ourselves.

There is an infinite number of ways that we can express this - we just need to believe it’s possible FOR US.

We’ve all been given a unique purpose and we all have a distinct path.

By developing trust within ourselves, we can stop putting our power in someone else’s hands.

Our bodies are intelligent beings and if we can begin to listen to the wisdom they can offer us, we have the power to embrace a completely new life.

Our stories are being written anew every single day.

What are you ready to release?

What are you inviting in for 2021?

How can you let old identities slip away and step into your genius?

Human Design is a Compass for our Wellbeing

What I love about working with my clients and Human Design is that we always end up at the heart of who you are. I see Human Design as a cosmic compass pointing to who we were all underneath the layers of conditioning and expectations we heap on ourselves (intentionally and not).

Sometimes we need a reintroduction to who we are and sometimes all we need is permission to embrace what makes us special. The beating heart of my sessions is a constant - we can run from who we are, we can bury who we are, we can hate who we are - but we are who we are.

The best course forward is to love who we are. In all my career paths, this is the lesson that I’ve learned, and it gets deeper every year. As a teacher, I found that the students who got the most out of their assignments were the students who were willing to learn from their mistakes and honestly assess their shortcomings. These students didn’t see their work as personal failings, they understood it was a marker in time and they could use the information to make the next piece that much more interesting. Students who found a personal interest in what they were doing were also more successful because they were able to integrate the information and the lessons fully.

As a fitness instructor, I saw the same thing. The students who could take critical feedback on their form and didn’t take it personally grew stronger and typically didn’t injure themselves. Being able to see yourself honestly allows you to move forward effectively and efficiently.

The clients who were in denial about their abilities didn’t get better. Something I saw both in fitness classes and teaching school is the people who can mimic the work without integrating it. Some students have learned to get through school by sheer memorizing, but they don’t really conceptually understand what they’ve put forth. The same thing happens in fitness classes; there are clients who can mimic the work and appear to be doing the exercises but are actually just performing. The real strength just isn’t there, they are superficially executing the moves. It may feel good to look like you’re doing it, but I believe you know deep down when your work isn’t more than surface level.

True wellbeing isn’t a performance. Moving from external performance to internal integration takes humility and perseverance. We must be willing to make mistakes, learn from our mistakes, and approach life like a scientist in a lab; trying different ways without attaching to our expectations. If a scientist keeps trying one way and doesn’t allow for flexibility, trying multiple avenues and different materials, they will never make progress. If we get hung up on a certain set of beliefs, we become stagnant and stuck. Change and evolution is the only constant in life. Don’t get stuck in the past because you can’t adapt to the now.

If you are stuck in the past, Human Design can help you identify where you are stuck. We come back to who we are when we live in alignment with who we are instead of living against who we are.

I love Human Design because when I began to study my own blend of energy, I was able to release a lot of conditioning that had been holding me back. Human Design is the anchor that drives me to keep going and continue to stake my own claim on life. It alone isn’t a tool of transformation, but it is the map, showing us what we are working towards. It gives us signposts that we can use to know when we’re on our way and when we’re moving away from our authenticity.

When we layer that Human Design map with our self-care practices, we can facilitate our own healing. We can transform.

You are meant to be the expert and authority on yourself. By having an understanding of your key energies (through knowing your own Human Design) you can trust yourself more. You won‘t need to follow someone else’s advice or be driven to tick boxes. We can develop a deeper understanding of what we’re releasing and what we’re inviting in. Just like working with intentions, when we know what we’re working towards, we have a better chance of getting there. We can cut out distractions and we can spot the tools we need on our journey.

Have you ever accidentally turned down a blessing? Been invited somewhere or given an opportunity and squandered it because you just didn’t understand how to use it?

Human Design gives us the map so that we see the value in doing self-care, it becomes the WHY.

• Why do I want to take care of my body? (So I can hear my own intuition and authority instead of being driven by old programming and internalized voices from my youth)

• Why do I want to practice movement like Pilates and yoga? (So that I am able to release stuck emotions and energy, clearing out the stuck energy so I can feel more myself)

• Why do I want to do breathwork and meditation? (So I can feel comfortable with my emotions and recognize that I am not my thoughts)

When we understand WHY we are doing something, it becomes inherently more meaningful. When we know WHAT we are working towards, we feel energized and inspired. Our life isn’t about harmonizing our body, mind & soul, it’s what happens once we’ve found that harmony. We won’t always live in harmony, but when we understand how to bring ourselves back to alignment, we won’t be spending all our time striving for it. I’m interested in what happens once we’ve created a firm foundation for ourselves. How do we grow and expand and express ourselves? What can you do in the world once you feel safe being you?

A Way to Use Human Design

The ultimate goal for knowing your Human Design is to have a better life, NOT to be knowledgeable about your Human Design chart.

Human Design is an incredible awareness tool that helps us move with life (instead of fighting against our nature). This awareness prompts us to let go of our resistance as we allow life to flow through us. 

There is no stopping the information you can consume in Human Design, but if you aren’t internalizing it and using it to relax into who you are, you aren’t maximizing what Human Design can do for you.

To get the most out of Human Design, use your understanding as a layer in your spiritual and personal development. In my own life, I was able to take my insights from Human Design and use them to eradicate limiting beliefs and ultimately that is what I am here to facilitate for you. Nothing else has made it so clear for me to take the leap into trusting myself.

Human Design gives us the map to our embodiment.

Let Human Design open the door to a transformation on how you see yourself operating in this world. This isn’t about saying, oh I’m a Projector, but not know what that means. I’d rather you forget your energy type, but understand your energy mechanics. This is about understanding who you are at the deepest layer and allowing that to flow freely out of you with love.

When you accept who you are, you’re grounded and present and you reset yourself back to your default settings of ease and peace.

The real catch-22 about Human Design is that you already are your design, so there’s nothing to do. The only thing is to do is stop fighting who you are.

And let me tell you as someone who used to fight like hell against my nature, we’re conditioned to live as far away from our nature as possible. A fact of life is that we’re endlessly fascinated and attracted to everything we aren’t. It then becomes very seductive to spend all our time and resources to become someone we’re not. Letting go of our conditioning sounds easy, but can be hard as hell. We’re addicted to suffering for the most part. Suffering feels familiar. Living life with satisfaction and ease is possible, but it only happens when we let go.

There’s nothing else you need to add to your life. This is about the art of subtraction. What can you remove to free yourself from struggle? From fighting against yourself?

What I’ve noticed and observed from my time in the Human Design world is that we all have a coterie of stories that we tell ourselves. When we begin to surrender, we must let go of our stories and it is truly like giving up a friend (even if you hate that friend) the new space that opens up when we let go can feel frightening in its unfamiliarity.

You have to trust in yourself to keep going into the unknown.

Designing Your Environment to Work for YOU

Creating a supportive environment is essential to both your productivity AND your wellbeing. 

We feel successful when we’re happy and supported. 

As you set up a space that feels supportive (or evaluate your current #wfhsetup) consider where you work, what you need to do in this space, what supplies you need, and how you want to feel so that you are setting up a supportive and functional workspace.

Where? The first order of business is establishing your home base. If you’re designing a space to support you, start by taking note of where you find yourself throughout the day: do you have an office space but conduct your day from your kitchen table, bedroom, or couch? 

Note where you work and where you like to work - are these the same places or different?

Embrace where you like to be and work with your habits. Too often we work against our natural inclinations instead of embracing our natural rhythms.

WHAT FUNCTIONS DO I NEED WORKSPACE FOR? Consider what you need your space to support. What do you do? What would you like to be able to do? Write all of these things down so that your space is able to support your needs. Do you have accommodations you need to make for yourself to be successful?

In my workspace, I need to be able to record meditations, hold meetings, maintain my blog, and create art.

I’m also #ADHD so I thrive with options, therefore my workspace is equally fixed and flexible to meet my needs. 

CONSIDER HOW YOU ACTUALLY LIVE: Remember, we’re not setting up for our ideal life, we’re setting up for our real life. In my ideal life, I’m a minimalist with no clutter. In reality, I have to have everything I need out for me to easily see and reach. If something is out of reach or out of sight = it does not exist to me. Is that maybe ridiculous? Sure, but it’s how I operate. If I set up my desk to be a minimalist wonderland, I would be working against myself. A workspace should not create barriers.

When curating your space to support you, spend some time considering how you live, and observe yourself in action. What are the things you can streamline and where can you bring in more joy? 

What + Where go hand in hand - feel free to switch the order of these as you create your workspace. The What (what you do to work) informs the where and the where informs the what.

Once we’ve established what and where, we move on to supplies, vibes, and set up:

SUPPLIES: Make note of what supplies you need and use to do your work and set them up so that they are usable - your space should be easy and effortless once it’s set. 

I have a ton of supplies - recording and sound equipment, papers, reference materials… crystals, card decks, pens and markers, and paint. If you use it regularly, it should be close at hand. If it’s something you use less often, it can be a little more out of reach.

EASE OF USE: We’re trying to make life easier. I’m #blessed to have a husband that works in IT and likes to physically make things. He wired my desk set up so that all I do is plug in my laptop or iPad and magically I can do all the things. I can also unplug one thing and roam around and do work on the couch.

Ask yourself how can I create ease of use and flow?

I was getting up and walking across a room multiple times a day to grab a reference book until it dawned on me that I could create a tiny library on my desk of books that I frequently turn to so that I don’t have to get up.

Have all your supplies with you so that you can keep riding your flow state when you’re in the zone and ready to go. The worst thing is when you have to break your concentration to find something.

HOW DO YOU WANT TO FEEL? Your space should be inviting to you. Consider what kind of environment makes you feel energized, relaxed, and settled (or whatever feelings inspire you to work and feel genius)

I like music, smells, and beauty so I have a selection of crystals, incense, and candles on my desk to warm my environment and make it feel good. I have taped some of my old work to the wall which reminds me that I am creative.

What makes you feel creative? What smells do you like? What light do you like?

Start playing around and see what works for you!

How do you #wfh?

Learning to trust your aura when you’re a control freak

If you're a control freak, raise your hand.

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It looks like...Oh, all of us? 

The wisdom of 2020 for me has been all about trust.

As a Projector, my aura strategy is to wait for the invitation. The way I learned to trust my aura was through hindsight.

If I force my will without an invitation, it’s pretty inevitable that things will get real dicey.

As an impatient control freak and (recovering) perfectionist learning to let go of my conditioning that puts pressure on me to do all the things, all the time has been a herculean task, but extremely rewarding as I lean into trusting that I don’t have to do it all.

So this summer, when I was feeling particularly bitter (because all my action wasn’t immediately paying off in the ways I wanted it to), I decided I had one option I hadn’t tried: FULL SURRENDER INTO MY STRATEGY.

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I was ready to ACTUALLY let go, Not just let go where I felt comfortable, but truly let go and let god, if you will. 

What has followed of course is exactly what we talk about in sessions: THE MAGIC HAPPENS WHEN WE SURRENDER.

When we’re not getting our desired result, it’s time to try something new. For most of us, trying something new means slowing down, letting go of control and allowing ourselves to become receptive.

The lesson that floated to me as I read about string theory and the art of doing less this summer, is that what is most helpful is the opposite of what we think we need to do. 

What followed when I finally stopped meddling in my own life? A ton of magic. 

I've naturally expanded my professional and personal network with super lovely people across the globe and here in Austin, found myself on the receiving end of beautiful invitations and opportunities and I've been reminded yet again that the more I trust, the more my aura does the hard work for me.  

Everyone has this ability. It's the art of subtraction. 

[TL;DR: When the ways we are used to operating keep landing us the same frustrating results, it's time to stop trying and start allowing.]

If you're accustomed to doing the most and it's not providing the results you want, it’s probably time to experiment with doing less. 

You aren't meant to do it all. You've got a specific zone of genius that you operate in and so do others. If we're out here trying to do everyone's job, we're blocking our own magic. 

We all have different magnets in our aura calling in people and opportunities at all times. If we can slow down and release our expectations and control, those magnets can really get to work. 

In my clarity sessions, we go over all the different places that you have magnets pulling the resources you need to you. 

No matter where you are with your Human Design journey you can experiment with doing less and see what the universe serves up.

Understanding the Sacral Center - do I know when enough is enough? perfectionism, burn out, performing life, and arbitrary goals

Do you know why I love Human Design? It has built-in signposts that we can use to evaluate if we’re balanced and in our authenticity.

The not-self themes of the energy centers and aura types are incredible tools to evaluate our wellbeing.

We don’t need to learn everything there is in our charts, we just need to understand some key elements. One of those crucial elements - especially in our culture of productivity and more is more? THE SACRAL CENTER!!

When we’re out of balance in the sacral center - or swept up in someone else’s sacral energy - we can massively overdo things.

GATHER ROUND DEAR ONES BECAUSE IF YOU LOVE TO GO OVERBOARD AND YOU DON’T KNOW WHEN ENOUGH IS ENOUGH - THEN YOU’VE BEEN SEDUCED BY SACRAL ENERGY!

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Jessie Spano put herself under constant pressure to perform. If you aren’t familiar with this iconic episode, the TL;DR is that her high standards had her stressed out and making questionable decisions.

If you’re a perfectionist (recovering or not) and hold yourself to impossibly high standards that drive you crazy - you likely don’t know when to stop.

Why do we put this pressure on ourselves to do the most?

Because we’re hoping that if we do everything perfectly and overachieve, we can free ourselves from feeling pain. We’re trying to run away from life’s realities by attempting to make our lives bulletproof. Perfectionism + impossible standards is a coping mechanism we apply to ourselves like a shield. We believe that somehow our achievements will allow us to fly above those who get criticism and that we can escape without being seen or evaluated.

Perfection is a distorted coping mechanism designed so that we don’t take a look at our vulnerabilities and real needs. Perfectionism takes the sting out of the hurt and rejection of life - “HAHA. YOU CANNOT HURT ME AS I HAVE ALREADY HURT MYSELF,” WE THINK.

We can beat ourselves up first, so you can’t hurt us... but the problem is - perfectionism is a self-fulfilling prophecy. We live constantly under the shadow of our own expectations, idealism (ahem, delusion) and the constant barrage of internal monologue THAT NOTHING IS EVER GOOD ENOUGH.

We’re here to enjoy life - not blaze through a checklist and amass achievements. Achievements mean nothing if they are done for external approval.

Perfectionism is performing life for validation. Performing life for validation is a vapid existence.

HOW DO I KNOW? BECAUSE I HAVE LIVED IT.

Performing life doesn’t feel good.

If you think you might be performing life - it looks like this:

• Achieving the goal you were obsessed over, but when the reward comes, it feels empty instead of satisfying. We’re supposed to enjoy the journey and not race to the destination. When I achieve a goal only to find it was an empty milestone, I can then reflect back and evaluate- was the goal process or product? If it turns out it wasn’t thrilling or engaging during the process, then it was probably for show.

• Believing there are winners and losers. We believe we have to compete or fail. If this is the loop you’re caught in - getting a reading can really sort out what the best path to your success feels like.

• Worrying or living by what others think of you. Thinking you have only one option because of family expectations or cultural expectations. Examining where this pressure is coming from and who’s benefitting from this pressure is super critical here to begin to untie this know.

• FULL ON BURN OUT. If you are getting sick or injured or if you are losing interest in life or if you are just done - you aren’t living for yourself. I HAVE BEEN THERE.

BUT THE GOOD NEWS IS YOU’RE HERE NOW AND HUMAN DESIGN CAN BE A TREMENDOUS TOOL TO HELP YOU OVERCOME YOUR SELF-SABOTAGING WAYS. 

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First, let’s take a look at the power of the sacral center for sacral beings:

The sacral center is sacred for Generators and Manifesting-Generators.

If you have your sacral defined (Generators + Manifesting-Generators) understanding your sacral energy will bring you greater alignment as your awareness of how your energy operates increases.

Developing a relationship with the frequency of yes and no is absolutely paramount for your wellbeing. You must respect what your energy is telling you and listen to it if you want to live your best life.

To feel satisfied and aligned as a Generator and Manifesting-Generator follow the sacral energy as it alerts you to your passions and lights up for things that make you feel enthusiastic - the sacral doesn’t follow where you point, it points where you’re meant to go.

The sacral doesn’t care what’s cool - it’s showing you what you’re designed to do.

Fueling your passion = satisfaction.

Chasing achievements that aren’t rooted in passion = frustration.

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How do you relate to sacral energy when you are a Projector, Manifestor, or Reflector?

If you DON’T have a defined sacral center (Projectors, Manifestors, Reflectors), understanding how you REACT to and AMPLIFY sacral energy can change your life.

The energy coming from the sacral center is super seductive. Generators and Manfesting-Generators are designed to pull others towards them with their sacral energy. We get caught in their sacral tailwind and think that we can do what sacral beings can do.

Non-sacral beings can have shadow around being thought of as lazy or not as tough as others, so we’ll catch that sacral wind and ride it hard to prove we can hang. Well, the Generators we’ve been hanging around are fine the next day, while we’re completely and utterly depleted.

Non-sacral beings can easily get hyped up on the powerful sacral energy that Generators and Manifesting-Generators are providing and we can push ourselves out of our natural range. It’s a little bit like a sugar rush and sugar crash. We have to understand how to balance our sacral intake so that we’re not crashing all over the place because we’re the ones left to deal with our own damage when we’ve set out to prove we’re just like the sacrals.

Borrowed sacral energy is like running up a credit card.

We’re going to have to pay the bill eventually. Sacral energy used incorrectly fuels us to live hard in the paint, blinding us to our own reality. Allowing us to push into the not-self even more.

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Because we’re all conditioned (sacrals and non-sacrals, perfectionists and non-perfectionists alike) to believe that our worth is our productivity, we’re all seduced to push (or surf) the sacral energy as hard and as fast as it will go.

No matter your energy type, pay attention if you are forcing your energy - because if you force your energy too much? It’s burnout city (and if you’re a non-sacral burnout typically lasts a long time).

Think of your body as a car. If we’re constantly pressing on the gas pedal, but never stopping for fuel or maintenance, we’re headed for a spectacular breakdown (and not to mention a whopper of a bill at the auto shop).

The same thing happens to us when we try to force our sacral energy (or surf sacral energy that’s not ours) for too long.

If we’re performing life or trying to keep out or outrun our pain - we’re never going to learn when enough is enough. We’ll always be striving, hoping the next thing will be the thing that protects us.

We can’t live a pain-free life, no matter how much we achieve. Living comes with bumps and lessons and hurts.

Doing the most does not protect us from hurt, so use your energy to do things that make you happy instead of feeling like you’ve got to perform.

If you do not know what it means to break out of performing (and I know for myself unlocking from this mindset took years…) Begin by noting the things that make you feel excited.

When shifting from performance to progress, it’s not about the end result, but the exploration and the discovery inherent in life. You do not have to be good at something to explore it. You do not need permission to do what your heart desires.

When we’re engaging in activities that fill us up, it’s easier to know when it call it a day. When we’ve put in enough time and it’s time to rest.

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WITH HUMAN DESIGN WE HAVE OUR MAP TO GET BACK TO REAL SELVES. WE CAN MAKE A HOME IN OUR BODIES AND FEEL GOOD.

When we connect to our bodies and our own authority that we can begin to break the cycle. We have to connect to our bodies to hear our authority, otherwise we’re going to think someone else knows better and we’ll be seduced by FOMO.

We are meant for so much more than this. Understanding who we are at our core means we can combat the pressures that take us out of ourselves.

Use the roadmaps of the not-self to guide yourself back to your own authority.

If you are in your frustration, bitterness, anger, disappointment and you keep doing instead of slowing down, you’re in the not-self.

The medicine of truth is that you don’t need to achieve or perform your worth. You are already innately worthy. Use your time and energy to fill your cup.

You are not here to be validated by anyone but yourself. Likes and popularity will never fill you to satisfaction, they create an endless cycle for more.

You can validate yourself and it feels much better than seeking external validation. On the road to your own validation you will face challenges. You need to be able to face obstacles and keep going with your own path. This is the work.

I pulled myself out of the hole by listening to my heart, journaling, creating a support group, seeing a therapist, seeing a psychic, doing a LOT of yoga, meditation, sound-healing, using crystals, learning what foods were good for me, reading all the self-help books, reiki, learning how to do reiki, moving my body regularly, riding bikes with friends, and most importantly, allowing myself to do the things that sounded fun to me.

A Human Design reading is a wonderful place to learn to strip back the layers of conditioning and learn what energies you have with you so you can work with what you’ve got instead of being seduced by the performance lifestyle.

Further recommended reading for unplugging from perfectionism:

• Gay Hendricks, The Big Leap

• Celeste Headlee, Do Nothing: How to Break Away from Overworking, Overdoing, and Underliving

• Jenny Odell, How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy

If you’re curious to chat before booking with me - you can text me (310-919-0678) or schedule a free 15-minute Zoom meeting here.

How Human Design has completely changed my life

It wasn’t until I found Human Design that I was able to put all the pieces together of self-care, self-love, and self-trust. Human Design gave me the framework and the understanding of WHY these things were important. I was meditating, I was working out, I was eating healthily, but my mind was trapped in a lack mindset that was bringing me a F#ckton of suffering.

Human Design opened my world to a new way of seeing myself and the world. For the first time, I was able to let go of my conditioning around harmful body and eating patterns. I experienced profound freedom that I continue to enjoy today. I feel like a radiant goddess.

Here are just a few things that have changed in my life when I shifted into my own energetic authority:

• I stopped worrying about my purpose and began to explore my likes, preferences, and desires. My days are now about channeling my highest self into the physical dimension.

• I shifted from trying to control how others perceived me to be fully embodied as myself and no longer giving AF how others think of me. You know that quote what you think of me isn’t my business? Yup.

• My relationship with my body completely changed. I feel better in my body than I ever have before. I no longer workout under the mindset of coercing my body to comply with a beauty standard, but instead, I practice moving from a place of reverence to my body. I see that our physical body is but one component of this life. Do you know what’s sexy? Feeling good in your body.

• I love what I do every day and I enjoy the moment. I’ve almost eliminated my anxiety (I used to have panic attacks regularly for nearly a decade)

• I have begun to systematically wipe out my self-sabotaging perfectionist programming, I no longer think about how people perceive me, I move forward with my life as an active participant and co-creator with the universe.

• I found a relationship that is in alignment with my highest self. Understanding my husband’s Human Design has helped us grow and appreciate each other for who we are!

PROJECTORS: HERE TO KNOW THE OTHER

The Projector aura is here to know the other. It’s what we’re designed to do while here in these earthly bodies.

If you are a Projector, understanding how your aura works is critical intel for your health and wellbeing. Why? Projectors operate so differently from the other energy types. Finding out you are a Projector is usually a watershed moment in your personal timeline.

The Projector aura is shaped like a knife. Extending outward from your heart, it reaches out to the other. This energetic shape gives Projectors their ability to see. Our aura cuts through the other auras to see directly to the heart of whoever is in our direct path.

This makes us powerful, but as they say, with great power comes great responsibility. And just like a knife, it cuts both ways. We can get ourselves into a lot of trouble if we don’t learn how to properly utilize our auras. As a Projector, there should be an oath to protect our aura like a doctor takes the Hippocratic oath. First, do no harm.

SAFETY FIRST.

The way our aura is shaped means we are exceptionally open to the energy and influence of conditioning. The aura is designed to operate on a one-to-one basis, locking into the other and allowing attention and information to flow. The gift of the Projector aura is attention.

We don’t get power without a serious check to ours. When we cut through to others, we’re also opening ourselves up to the energy we’re examining. We’re completely vulnerable. This is why we MUST understand recognition and the invitation.

When I have a conversation, an energetic vortex forms around me. I literally lock in place. I am hooked into another person’s energy and aura. I am deeply listening and that person has ALL MY ATTENTION. A Projector’s attention and focus is a force. If you are with a Projector, all of a sudden you’ve told them your whole life story and they’ve listened. 

(Two projectors who recognize each other? Pretty much immediately in each other’s circle of trust, at least that’s my experience).

Because of the powerful force that is created, Projectors must learn to only dive into the other when invited. We can’t take it personally if someone doesn’t lock in with us. Our frequency just doesn’t resonate with theirs.

Think of it this way, we don’t want doctors going around performing surgery without consent, so why should we force our way into an aura that’s not open to us?

Recognition is a portal. Use recognition to understand who is open to you and who is not. If you are not recognized, wait, because someone else will be with you shortly.

If you learned the Projector strategy and your heart fell, understand that this is to protect everyone. The invitation makes sure everyone is operating from a place of their highest good.

Diving deep into the other is not meant to be done with reckless abandon.

Just as we have free will to choose our doctor and when to seek treatment (or not), not everyone is meant to interact with your aura. We are designed to interact with those who recognize and invite us into their lives. Respect those who aren’t meant to benefit from your attention (it’s a waste of your time anyway).

Being a Projector can sometimes feel like a riddle. You must recognize yourself first before you can be healthily recognized by others. Do you know the saying about looking to others to fill your cup? That is extremely important for Projectors.

There’s a reason Ra said Projectors are the most troubled. This is because we’re the only energy type that NEEDS ATTENTION AND RECOGNITION TO SURVIVE AND THRIVE. One of my favorite Human Design teachers says Projectors are needy little bitches. LOL. YUP.

The riddle comes into play because while we do need recognition from others if we don’t do the self-work to recognizing ourselves first, we’re setting ourselves up for imminent disaster.

Most of us do not receive proper recognition training, so this becomes our biggest place of reprogramming. Attention is our life force and can also lead to our destruction. I know that sounds so harsh, but it’s true. (PS, ARE YOU RAISING A PROJECTOR? FOR THE LOVE OF GOD GIVE YOUR CHILD QUALITY ONE-ON-ONE ATTENTION, THIS IS FOR THE GOOD OF HUMANITY.)

If we’re indiscriminately looking for attention, we can get sucked into some bad shit. We’re going to override our body’s natural authority just to get that hit of attention. I know this because I’ve done it. It feels horrible. We must learn to find the right attention and the right attention begins with yourself.

Two things to consider with your attention:

1) know that it can attract narcissists who find our particular brand of attention is like energetic heroin. If you’ve found yourself in a negative feedback loop with a narcissist, you’ve got to cut the tie. The connection isn’t healthy. They are basking in your attention and sapping your energy that could be applied to something much better for you.

2) a distracted Projector is getting faulty intel and that can be dangerous. Do not lock into someone unless you are ready to jump in 100%. Reading someone when you’re not properly locked in leads to poor guidance and bad vibes. REMEMBER, RECOGNITION IS A TWO WAY STREET.

When the connection is right and healthy - everyone leaves the interaction feeling renewed, energized, with that warm, fuzzy feeling. Not feeling warm and fuzzy? Probs not getting recognized for your authentic spirit.

When you are alone, listen to your own guidance and connect with your heart. How do you want to be seen? Being alone in your own aura space is necessary to protect your health, reset from energy, and to rebuild your internal resources. When we interact with others it is an energetic exchange, so it takes time to release that energy back to the universe and reset your system back to its natural settings.

In a perfect world, most Projectors would hang out by themselves working on their craft and then get a call into action. When the call comes in you check with yourself - is this person seeing me? If it’s a yes, proceed. IF this person doesn’t see you for you, LEAVE ‘EM ON READ.

If you’re reading this and you AREN’T a Projector - let’s talk about how to interact effectively with a Projector.

When you recognize a Projector and seek them out - you create beautiful synergy (and PS the perfect pairing is a Generator + a Projector - we complement the shit out of each other).

A Projector is activated by your life force through recognition and invitation. Call a Projector when you want advice or guidance. Do you need someone to see the context and the big picture? Get yourself a Projector. Projectors are masters of systems. They’ve taken the time to read the manual so to speak. We’re 20% of the population - so we’re energetic outliers. We’re great consultants.

Once activated, the Projector provides guidance based on their vision. The gift of the aligned Projector is vision: guidance through a new way of seeing. Projectors have a sphere of mastery which is their life work.

If you are a Projector and you’re trying to understand what your life work is - start to think about when people are seeking you out for advice.

What do people want your take on? Journal and track when you’ve been recognized.

As you wait for your recognition and invitations, open up space in your life for your own joy. 

Projector vision is as much a blessing as it is a curse because as deeply as we see the other, we *think* we see ourselves, but we don’t.

So when you’re in that period between invites - explore your interests! Do something that makes you feel good.

Your job as a Projector is to get in alignment with yourself so that you are ready for those invites and have the discernment to know when you’re being correctly recognized. 

New Moon in Virgo + Setting intentions + inviting in the spirit of play into your world

I love the new moon for setting intentions. Even though we can set intentions whenever we want, I find that having the backdrop of the moon's energy is like an extra blessing we can use to supercharge our magic. It always feels like a special time to pause and connect within. 

My intention I'm setting for this super new moon in Virgo is to play more -  as I uproot my perfectionist tendencies, I see the benefit in making time for pure pleasure. The dictionary defines play as engaging in activity for enjoyment and recreation rather than a serious or practical purpose. Just because we're grown doesn't mean play becomes less important to our own holistic development.

I used to be so over-scheduled I had no idea who I was. I know now it was exactly for that reason - if we're so busy we can't think, we're escaping ourselves, but we're also selling ourselves short. If we're not on earth to find out who we are - then why are we here?

By honoring and exploring our interests and committing to give ourselves time to play, we can open ourselves up to the divine, the bigger picture, and invite magic into our lives. 

How are you creating time for recreation and relaxation in your life?

If the idea of using your time for pure pleasure is triggering - dig into that. I found for myself that I didn't believe I was worthy of giving myself time to enjoy what I wanted to enjoy because I was so set on a productivity mindset. Creating space for joy and recreation takes thoughtfulness and time as we strike out the programming that tells us to be practical with our pursuits.

It is worth it to examine your beliefs and carve out time for yourself. Play is an extraordinary gift and perhaps one of the most important things we can do for ourselves. If you need more of a reason than getting to know what you like and enjoying that for enjoyment's sake - then know that giving yourself time to chill out is essential for your mental health and wellbeing. 

I invite you to reflect on where you are in your life right now. Take 10 minutes and journal or sit quietly in meditation. How are you showing up for yourself? How would you like to show up for yourself as you progress into Fall?